We live in a world where it is SO easy to compare ourselves to others.
Whether it’s at work, at school, or on social media…we are “pinned” against each other.
Not only does this make for a toxic work, school, or social environment, but it can deteriorate our self-image and belief in our ability to succeed.
You may be thinking “how can we work against this “comparison fatigue”, where we feel overwhelmed from being “pinned” against each other?“
First, an important thing to remember is that other people’s success does not equal the absence of yours.
Likewise, your success does not equal the absence of other people’s.
Not to sound cliche, but we are all on our own journeys.
And there is room for all of us in this crazy world.
Second, the next time you feel yourself comparing yourself to other people, try these things:
1. Celebrate their success.
This can be external or internal. Externally, you can tell them “congratulations” or comment something nice on their post. Internally, you can think “good for them, I am happy for them.” Taking a moment to pause, take ourselves out of the equation, and be genuinely happy for them is so important! Remember that what we see, especially on social media, is often a person’s good moment or highlight reel. Behind all that, they too have likely struggled with stress, self-doubt, and insecurities.
2. Remember your progress.
Again, we all have different backgrounds and stories. As such, everyone has value and something unique to contribute. Our progress is not linear. If you feel you are in a better place than you were a year ago, that is success. And if you do not feel that way, so long as you have the self-awareness and commitment to take small steps each day towards bettering your situation, that is success. Progression is what we should be striving for, not perfection.
3. Know that your time is coming, too.
If you are dealing with stress, self-doubt, and insecurities, it may feel like a “hit” to your confidence to see others progressing and feeling stagnant yourself. That’s okay. Those feelings are valid and normal. Being blunt, the success or progression of another person is not about you. Again, take yourself out of the equation and remember that another person’s success does not equal the absence of yours. Moreover, to combat those feelings, patience is key. Keep in mind that your time is coming, too. You deserve good things and you deserve whatever “success” means to you. It is coming your way. Remain patient, try your best each day, and believe in yourself. (I know it’s easier said than done.)
How do you combat “comparison fatigue”?