Destination Addiction (And How To Overcome It)

This is a piece I wrote for The Honor Code.

As college students and budding professionals, it is common to be future-oriented. More often than not, we find ourselves pondering about the next semester, internship, degree, etcetera. Future orientation, or the process of thinking about and considering the implications of the future, can be beneficialit enables introspection and influences positive action towards achieving goals. It can be excitingenergizing evento think of what is to come.

However, future orientation can also present as destination addiction. Destination addiction is a preoccupation with the future. As a result, destination addiction shifts attention away from the present and towards the future. This shift in attention reflects an assumption that contentment lies ahead, not now. Continuously dismissing the present in favor of the future can lead to detrimental thought patterns and toxic feelings of inadequacy and dissatisfaction.

How can we overcome destination addiction?

Simply, acknowledge the uniqueness of the phase you are in.

Everything that has happened had to happen the way it did for you to be in the phase you are in.

Think back to a time when all you wanted was to be where you are now.

Maybe this means being a college student, landing your dream internship, having a solid group of friends…

I urge you to think of 3 things about the phase you are in that you like.

It can be as surface level as your hairstyle or as deep as the psycho-emotional shift you have experienced.

Whatever it may be, the phase you are in is whole, complete, and purposeful. Appreciate it.

Ultimately, if you do not practice contentment with the present, you will not be able to in the future.

2 Comments

  1. Thank you for this article! This is relevant to me in that I find that I have been feeling this way for 17 years, after my oldest sibling passed away. I realize now that her death prompted my “work-related” travels. Only now can I see that I have been searching for something…for happiness…for her. I turn 65 this year and it’s time for me to stop and acknowledge my good place now. God Bless You for your insight. -Joyce

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    1. Hello Joyce, sorry about the loss of your sister. I’m sure she was an amazing woman. I am so glad my blog post was able to reach you in the way it did. I wish you many happy moments in the future, you deserve them. Take care. -Kendall

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